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Posts written solely by Jessica.

Little Boy No More…

My little boy is officially a big boy. Not just because of his new snazzy haircut,


he’s a big boy because he decided that he wanted to start using the potty on Sunday. We have started potty training our son.

On Sunday, he would tell us that he had to pee, and the would go sit on the potty and do nothing, which we expected since we just started. Today though, about half the time he asked to potty he went. SWEET.

I’m so excited that this seems to be going well for him. I’m just trying to go with his lead on this one. He doesn’t really get pressure from me on this. It has been all him. Sometimes I do catch myself asking him if he needs to potty, but he doesn’t respond really well to that. Most of the time he just runs away from me.

Wish us luck!

Happily Busy December

We have had such a fun December.  I will be posting pictures from our recent exploits soon, but I wanted to talk about my birthday.

My birthday was on the 15th, and it was such an incredible day.  I would even venture so far as to say it was one of the best birthdays I’ve had in a long time.  It used to matter to me how much attention I got from everyone on my birthday, but it’s different now that I’m more grown up.  I did appreciate all the friends who did wish me a happy birthday.  Thanks to Facebook, that wasn’t a small number either.  🙂

What made my day awesome was my family.  Spencer was a total Sweetheart that day, which up until that seemed like is rare (I think we’ve discovered a balance for us, but that’s another story).  Spencer even took me on a lunch date to McDonalds.  He was so happy to be there and to play.  We even had a couple friends there to make it better.

That evening, when Adam came home, we went over to my parent’s house and opened my presents.  We did it there so Adam and I could leave Spencer and have a dinner date.  My gifts really told me how much my family loves me and cares about my interests and happiness.  It was a wonderful time.

Adam then took me out to dinner at one of our new favorite places.  While we were there a friend of the family came in and saw us.  In chatting with us, they discovered it was my birthday, and they wished me a happy one and went on to their table.  We enjoyed our meal, and asked for the check only to discover that our friends had paid for it.

I felt so loved and so appreciated on my birthday.  Thank you to everyone who made it such a special day for me.

Love Christmas time

I love Christmas time. We got our decorations out of storage on Monday, and put them up Monday night. I love how our house looks this time of year. There is something extra warm and welcoming about it.

We also put up our tree. We’ve decided that this is our last year for this particular Christmas tree. It was the first one we ever got, but it’s kind of falling apart and a pain to put together. But that’s beside the point. We put it together, and strung it with lights. We are planning on putting ornaments on it tonight and letting Spencer help us.

Although, I’m not sure that there is wisdom in that plan. I think if I let Spencer help decorate the tree, I won’t be able to get him to not touch the tree afterward. We’ll see what happens.

Anyway, we got everything ready on Monday night. On Tuesday morning, Spencer came out of his room and looked around in wonder, and then he looked at the Christmas tree and said, “Chri-mas tree!” He was so happy to see it.

Skip forward after a day of playing with his little people nativity and fun stuff, we were taking him to bed and before he went to be he said, “Night, Night Tree!” 3 or 4 times before he went. What a lil cutie!! I just love my son. And my dear husband, who battle that tree so we could have such a sweet moment.

Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving all! We had a wonderful Thanksgiving yesterday with all of my immediate family! My brothers (and Mark’s wife) came home for a friend’s wedding, and so we all had Thanksgiving together for the first time since 2002.

We had a great day playing games, eating Turkey, watching movies, eating more Turkey and pie. Spencer had a great day this year too. Last year, Spencer didn’t have such a good day on Thanksgiving. I think Spencer likes having his uncles around to play with.

Although Alan was willing to let Spencer ride him like a horse, he would only let mommy be his horse. Whenever I was sitting on the floor, he would try to push me over so he could have a ride. 🙂 I am trying to enjoy being able to pick him and play with him as much as I can.

We will all be going to our friend’s wedding tomorrow, and I am the official Wedding Photographer. I’m so excited. Hope it all goes well. 🙂

Living with Chiari- Neurosurgeon 1

We had our first meeting with a neurosurgeon on Tuesday the 23rd. I really liked him a lot. I was extremely comfortable with him from the very beginning of our meeting.

He told us that he sees 4 to 6 Chiari patients a week, and that 80% of them are able to manage their symptoms without surgery. But I fit into that 20% that need (or will need surgery). Since we just found all these problems, there is no way to know how my symptoms will progress. He said that there is no hurry to get surgery right away, but I would *probably* need it when in the next year.

For us there is a little more of a hurry. For those of you who didn’t know, we were trying to have another baby, but all this has ground that to a halt. So, the sooner we have surgery, the sooner we could start trying again. Granted, we do have to wait a year after surgery to try, but I’m good with that.

I digress. We felt very comfortable with his confidence about the procedure and his ability to perform it. He ordered another MRI (but of my lumbar spine), a CAT of my neck and X-rays of my neck. With the MRI, he’s checking for a tethered spinal cord, another complication of Chiari, that would cause some problems with surgery and change how it was done. The CAT Scan and X-rays are checking to see if there is any weakness in my neck. They will likely be removing a portion of my C1 vertebrae, and need to make sure they don’t have to do a Cranial Cervical fusion.

We are actually going to try to schedule the surgery for either January 11 or January 18th. The 11th would be the most ideal, but we’ll go with what we can get. The Dr. even said he could squeeze me in before Christmas if we wanted, but I don’t want to do that. Adam even thinks that my recovery would be better to wait. Less stress after Christmas. I think he’s right.

We are getting another appointment with another neurosurgeon for a second opinion. That was the result of neurosurgeon 1. We are moving forward!!

Living with Chiari-Update

This week has been an interesting week for us as far as Chiari is concerned. (That is the last thing we want are more interesting weeks). I had another MRI on Tuesday morning, and were told they wouldn’t get back to us for probably 2 business days. They scanned my neck and upper back. They were checking for syrinx, a fluid filled pocket along the spinal cord.

We got the results back on Tuesday evening. I have 2 (or one really long one, they aren’t sure) syrinx. The bigger in is 5.8mm wide and goes from my C4 vertebra to my T1 vertebra. Then the second (or the continuation of the first) is 3.8mm wide and goes from my T1 vertebra to my C6 vertebra.

Here’s a picture of a spine so you can kind of judge where they are.

Spinal coloumn

What this means for me, well, I wish I could tell you. Some doctors say that I need the surgery since I have syrinx and they can cause a lot of problems that lead to paralysis. Others say that since I don’t have serious symptoms that are affecting my quality of life severely (I tend to disagree, but that’s just me) that I should watch my symptoms and wait until they are more serious before surgery.

We base our options on what we have read among the communities online, but we are getting appointments with several (okay 3 at this point) neurosurgeons in the area. Our first appointment is on December 2. ***UPDATE (about a half hour later) Our first appointment is now on 11/23, with a different doctor. Yeah for sooner!!*** We’ll let you know more then. 🙂

Living with Chiari

Well, I got back from the neurologist today with answers, but also with more questions. I have an Arnold-Chiari Malformation in my brain. It means that the tonsils of my cerebellum descend out of the hole at the bottom of my skull and into the cavity where my spinal cord resides. Thus crowding the spinal cord and creating pressure with leads to: headaches, fatigue, muscle weakness in the head and face, difficulty swallowing, dizziness, nausea and some other more serve things that I won’t mention here since I don’t have them.

Here is a picture of my MRI. The Yellow line is where a normal brain doesn’t descend below. The blue line marks how far mine actually is below. In measuring a few times (since we are EXACTLY sure where the line goes), we get anywhere from 17mm to 20mm descent. That is quite a lot even in Chiari terms. The doctor even told us that he called us in because this is the biggest one he’s seen in a long time.

Jess MRI

I have had this malformation my whole life. And knowing what I know now, I can look back and see the symptoms have always been there but I had no idea some of the things I dealt with weren’t normal. That is just how it always was for me, and there was no way to know otherwise.

While it is not life threatening in the least, it does pose a few problems for me. I will have to continue to deal with the symptoms for the rest of my life. Or we could have surgery to widen the hole at the base of my skull (among other things). The surgery doesn’t always work, and since migraines run in the family I still might get them, but maybe to a lesser extent.

We have been referred to a neurosurgeon, and are awaiting his call to schedule that appointment. At this point in time, I am scheduled for two more MRIs on Tuesday to check my spine for complicates that can occur from the Chiari.

Those are the results from my MRI today. We’ve got a lot of decisions to make, and would greatly appreciate all positive thoughts and prayers on our behalf.

Happy Birthday, Spencer!

Today was Spencer’s birthday. My dear little baby isn’t such a baby anymore. He turned 2!! Holy cow!

2 year old smiles

We had a great day. We didn’t do a party again this year. We just had a small family dinner and then presents and cupcakes. We did learn something that is pretty much common sense, but it had to be re-learned by us. Cake before presents! Spenc didn’t really want to have much to do with cupcake after all his presents, especially his car. Here are some pictures of the highlights.

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He was much happier to unwrap his presents this year. Last year, we did most of the work. We’re excited for Christmas. It should be a blast.

If you want to see the whole album click HERE


We had a really great Halloween. Here are some pictures of my little one.

Mokey boy

Grandma's house

Grandma's house

Favorite things at G'ma's House

We didn’t have Adam with us for Halloween, but he was gone for a good reason. He was off picking up our new van! We bought a Toyota Sienna in Denver, CO. He got to spend time with his brother and family. All in all, it was a good trip.

I will be posting pictures of it soon. 🙂

An Update and 8 questions


I went back to the doctor this week for follow up blood tests and about my headaches that haven’t seemed to get better. So the good news, my ferritin levels are looking better. They should be between 100-120 but my are at 35 (which is better than the 12 we started with). The iron supplement I’ve been on has been helping. I can totally tell the days that I forget to take it.

My HDL (good cholesterol) is still too low. And the only way to fix it is to do (as the doctor puts it) mild exercise. Trying to get me to exercise is like pulling teeth. I just don’t like it. I think I need a workout buddy (who isn’t my loving and forgiving husband). I think I need someone who doesn’t necessarily exercise WITH me, but keep me accountable.

Another good step we are talking from my trip to the doctor yesterday is a trip to the neurologist for my headaches. I already have the appointment and everything. Now I just have to wait until Nov 3. I’m hoping we can figure out why I get headaches so often, but even if we don’t know exactly why we can know that nothing more serious is causing my headaches. So that’s good.

The Game

My cousin Krystal “tagged” me. Since I’m rarely thought of in this kind of game, I thought I’d play.

1. If your husband was out of the picture, what would you have named your child(ren)? (If you don’t have a child, then hypothetically.) Well, Spencer would have been Spencer. I’ve just always loved that name. 🙂
2. When do you usually go to bed? Lately, it’s been around midnight, but I prefer to go to bed around 11.
3. If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would it be? Europe (vague I know, but there is so much I want to see there).
4. If you could change one thing about yourself physically, what would it be? hmm, I’d be able to get this extra baby weight off and keep it that way!
5. If you could have one talent that you don’t already have, what would it be? I would love to be able to play the piano.  Yes, I took lessons for a couple years, but even more years of not practicing will take that talent clean away.
6. If you had your choice, where would you live? We are so happy here, but really it doesn’t matter to me where we live as long as we’re together.
7. What material thing is on the top of your “wish list?” Right now, it’s a new van.  So practical with little kid (kids, we will have more in the lifetime of that vehicle)
8. What is one of the dumbest things you have ever done? I think most of my roommates and parents will agree that is was dating a certain person who shall not be named (we do not speak his name) while in college.  That was a really dumb 3ish weeks.

Now, I’m supposed to make up 8 questions and tag some more people.  But I’m not feeling all that thoughtful at the moment.  Thanks for thinking of me Krystal!